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This page is a collaborative effort of the MetaFilter community to collect links to mental health support resources and related AskMe threads.
- Suicide Hotlines
- Domestic Violence and Abuse Hotlines
- Rape and Sexual Assault Hotlines
- Postpartum Depression
- Homeless Survival Guide (food, housing, health care, public benefits)
- Get a lawyer (includes free and low-cost legal resources)
- 1 Crisis: Where to go for help
- 1.1 Lists of Suicide Hotlines, Local and National Resources
- 1.2 Additional Hotlines: Domestic Violence and Abuse
- 1.3 Additional Hotlines: Rape and Sexual Assault
- 2 Therapy
- 2.1 Online Therapist Finders
- 2.2 AskMe Threads About Finding A Therapist
- 2.3 Specific Therapist Recommendations
- 2.4 Low-cost / No-cost Sources of Medication and Health Care
- 2.5 Online Support, Suggested in AskMe
- 2.6 AskMe Threads About Long-Term Coping Strategies
- 2.7 AskMe Threads About Short-Term Coping Strategies
- 3 Depression resources
- 4 Postpartum Depression Resources
- 5 Alcoholism Resources
Crisis: Where to go for help
Lists of Suicide Hotlines, Local and National Resources
- National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 800-273-TALK (8255)
- Veterans, press "1"
- En español, oprima el "2")
- Hopeline: 800-SUICIDE (784-2433) / 800-442-4673 / 800-442-HOPE (4673)
- 877-838-2838 Veterans Peer Support line
- 800-784-2432 Spanish-Speaking suicide hotline
- 877-968-8454 Teen-to-Teen peer counseling hotline
- 800-472-3457 Grad Student hotline
- 800-773-6667 Post-partum depression hotline
- 800-799-4TTY (4889) TTY
- Suicide Hotlines: 800-784-2433
- CrisisLink: 703-527-4077
- National Alliance on Mental Illness (For help finding local resources)
- Depression and Suicide Online Chat Support: New Hope Online, Real Mental Health and CONTACT USA crisis chat
- Boys Town National Hotline: 800-448-3000 (they also have live chat and email support)
USA - GLBT
- The Trevor Project: 24/7 crisis & suicide prevention helpline for GLBTQ youth. 1-866-488-7386
- GLBT National Hotline: telephone and email peer-counseling in the US. 1-888-843-4564
- Trans Lifeline: a crisis hotline staffed by transgender people for transgender people. US: 1-877-565-8860, Canada: 1-877-330-6366
USA - Military
- Military Pathways: Military & Veterans Health Resources (including hotlines)
- Military OneSource: Military helpline (Stateside 1-800-342-9647, Overseas 484-530-5908 (they accept collect calls))
- Defense Center of Excellence for Psychological Health and Traumatic Brain Injury (DCoE) Outreach Center: Mental health staff will chat live 24/7, or you can call them at 1-866-966-1020.
- 116 123 connects to local emotional support / crisis helplines in many EU countries, including Austria, the Czech Republic, Germany, Greece, Hungary, Lithuania, Malta, Poland, the Republic of Ireland, Slovenia, Sweden, and the United Kingdom.
- 1300 13 11 14 Web: http://www.lifeline.org.au
- Online Chat Support: Teen Counseling
- Beyond Blue - The National Depression Initiative 1300 22 4636
- 02 649 95 55 (24/7)
- Web: http://www.zelfmoordpreventie.be/index.php
- 01 45 39 40 00 Web: http://suicide.ecoute.free.fr/
- 0800 - 111 0 111 (ev.) (protestant)
- 0800 - 111 0 222 (rk.) (roman catholic)
- 0800 - 111 0 333 (Kinder / Jugendliche) (for kids/teens)
- Web: http://www.telefonseelsorge.de
- Tokyo English LifeLine
- 03 5774 0992 (Free, anonymous telephone counseling. 9am - 11pm daily)
- 03 3498 0231 (Face to Face)
- Lifeline Malaysia
- 603 - 92850039 (Counseling Services)
- 0900-1450 (workdays, 0900-1800 local (CET))
- Web: http://www.korrelatie.nl
- Lifeline New Zealand:
- Lifeline Auckland: (9) 5222-999
- Outside Auckland: 0800 111-777
- Online: http://www.lifeline.org.nz
- Kirkens SOS: 815 33 300
- Mental Helse: 116 123
- Røde Kors-telefonen for barn og unge (Red Cross Helpline for youth): 800 333 21
Republic of Ireland
- Samaritans: 1850 60 90 90 (Deaf or Hard-of-Hearing Minicom: 08457 90 91 92)
- Samaritans: 08457 90 90 90 (Deaf or Hard-of-Hearing Minicom: 08457 90 91 92)
- If you are a child, Childline: 0800 1111
- MIND Infoline (for mental health information and advice): 0300 123 3393 (or text: 86463). 9:00-18:00, Mon-Fri.
UK - GLBT
- LGBT Foundation Helpline (phone and e-mail support for LGBT people): 03453 30 30 30. 10:00-22:00, 7 days.
- Samaritans offer 24/7 support to anyone in crisis through email.
- Befrienders Worldwide: international non-profit with 31,000 volunteers in over 40 countries.
Additional Hotlines: Domestic Violence and Abuse
- National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224. Hotline advocates are available 24/7 to provide confidential crisis intervention, safety planning, information and referrals to agencies in all 50 states, Puerto Rico and the U.S. Virgin Islands. Assistance is available in English and Spanish, and more than 170 languages.
- U.S. National Teen Dating Abuse Hotline: provides teens and young adults confidential and anonymous support by phone 1-866-331-9474 or online real-time chat.
- Asian Women's Shelter has a 24-hour, confidential, toll-free crisis line: 1-877-751-0880 (connects callers with language advocates when needed)
- Casa de Esperanza: línea de apoyo bilingüe de 24 horas / 24-hr bilingual domestic violence helpline: 651-772-1611
- Anti-Violence Project: bilingual (English/Spanish), 24/7 crisis intervention hotline for LGBTQH victims and survivors of any type of violence: 212-714-1141
- GLBTQ Domestic Violence Project: 24-Hour Domestic Violence hotline: 800-832-1901
- Shelter Safe: (Helpful resources: Find help - includes telephone helplines listed by territory/province).
- Casa Amiga Centro de Crisis: Atención en crisis las 24 Hrs. (656) 690-83-00
- National Domestic Violence Helpline: 0808 2000 247. 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
- Women's Aid: 1800-341-900. Freephone helpline 10am to 10pm. (Helpful resources: Do you need help? and Are you in immediate danger?)
- White Ribbon campaign: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732). 24 hour, National sexual assault, family & domestic violence counselling line for any Australian who has experienced, or is at risk of, family and domestic violence and/or sexual assault. (Helpful resources: Finding help - scroll down for state and territory helplines).
- Are you OK?: Campaign to reduce family violence. 0800 456 450 - Helpline. (Helpful resources: I need help and Experiencing violence)
- The Americans Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center: International Toll-Free 866-USWOMEN (Available 24/7). Email and live chat is also available.
- The Global Network of Women's Shelters links to the HotPeachPages international directory of abuse hotlines, shelters, refuges, crisis centres and women's organizations, plus domestic violence information in over 110 languages.
How to support a survivor of domestic violence or abuse
From the National Domestic Violence Hotline: How Can You Help a Friend or Family Member?
- How do I help a battered friend out?
- What else can we do? (neighbors)
- A friend in another state spent the night in a domestic violence shelter. What can/should I do to help?
- How do we support our abused friend and her daughter?
- How to help a friend escape an abusive relationship...?
- Help me cope with the fact that two of my friends, victims of domestic violence, don't want help.
- Trying to evade violent stalker, seeking feedback and advice
- Should I go back?
- When does cruelty become pathology?
- Resources for surviving emotional abuse
- Need support for emotional aftermath of leaving an abusive relationship
- Why can I not get over my abusive boyfriend?
- What to do after domestic violence?
- How did you tell others you were in an abusive relationship?
- Frequent AskMe recommendations:
- Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft
- The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker
- Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay by Mira Kirshenbaum
- AskMe: What are some of the best self-help books you read after leaving an abusive relationship?
- MeFi: Why s/he stays
Additional Hotlines: Rape and Sexual Assault
- RAINN: The Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network
- RAINN offers a National Sexual Assault Hotline at (800) 656-HOPE (4673) in partnership with 1,100 rape crisis centers across the nation, providing free, confidential support 24/7.
- RAINN also offers an anonymous and confidential National Sexual Assault Online Hotline staffed by trained support specialists available 24/7.
- Rape and Sexual Abuse Support Centre
- Helpline: 0808 802 9999. Open every day, 12:00 to 14:30 and 19:00 to 21:30
- Counselling: 0209 683 3311. Open Mon-Fri 9am - 7pm.
- Rape And Abuse Line
- Answered by women 0808 8000 123
- Answered by men 0808 8000 122
How to support a survivor of rape or sexual assault
- What can I expect if I report a rape to the police? (Asker is in United States.)
- Rape support services/books/organizations for men whose significant other has been raped?
- What can I do to cope with rape? (I was raped in a foreign country. Going home is not an option. What can I do to cope?)
- If my rapist comes after me again, is there any legal weapon (other than a gun) that will stop him?
- how to deal with unsupportive friend after rape?
Online Therapist Finders
- The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) offers a free HelpLine at 1-800-950-NAMI (6264) for information, referrals and support for people living with a mental health condition, family members and caregivers, mental health providers and the public. The NAMI online directory can be searched for local NAMI organizations. (USA)
- The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) offers:
- Searchable mental health treatment locator
- Links to other helplines and treatment locators
- The SAMHSA National Helpline (also known as the Treatment Referral Routing Service) 1-800-662-HELP (4357), available 24/7 in English and Spanish for referrals to free and low-cost treatment facilities, support groups and community-based organizations. (USA)
- Psychology Today (USA & Canada)
- HelpPro's National Social Worker Finder (USA) (The directory is searchable by location, age group, cost, approach, etc.)
- Social Work Therapy Finder (USA, Massachusetts Only)
- Polyamory-friendly Professionals (International, including USA)
- Gaylesta: Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender Psychotherapist Association of the Greater San Francisco Bay Area, for GLBT friendly therapists (USA, San Francisco Bay Area)
- NCSF: Database of Kink-Aware Professionals (USA)
- The Secular Therapist Project (USA) (Anonymous registry of therapists who agree to keep "their religious, spiritual or supernatural beliefs from informing their therapeutic approach.")
- SANE offers local information about mental health services through an Information Database. (UK)
AskMe Threads About Finding A Therapist
- What's the best way to find a good therapist (or doctor)
- Get a Therapist: How?
- How do I even start to locate the therapist that I think would be right for me among so many options?
- I have a lot of questions about therapy
- Finding a therapist: I'm sure I can find one. But how do I know whether the therapist I choose is any good?
- Nuts and bolts of effective psychological therapy from a patient's point of view.
- How can I see a therapist on my parents' insurance without my parents finding out?
- Need help in choosing a psychologist
- Finding the Right Therapist
- What's a good way to find a qualified therapist, especially to look for help with depression?
- Advice from The Straightener, on How to Find a Therapist
- Advice from Omiewise: "Patients who want to get the most out of therapy should...."
Specific Therapist Recommendations
- Arizona: Tucson (Marriage/Couples Counselor / Therapist)
- California: Bay Area I, California: Bay Area II, California: Bay Area III (mindfulness for children)
- California: Berkeley/Albany/El Cerrito/Richmond
- California: Los Angeles I, California: Los Angeles II (sliding scale), California: Los Angeles III, California: Los Angeles IV (anxiety disorders) California: Los Angeles V
- California: Stanford / Palo Alto-Menlo Park Area
- California: San Francisco (evening/weekend hours)
- California: San Francisco II (who also takes Kaiser insurance)
- California: San Francisco III (for men who were sexually abused as children)
- California: Sacramento (Japanese-speaking)
- Colorado: Denver Area
- Illinois: Chicago Area (free/sliding scale), Illinois: Chicago Metro Area (CBT), Illinois: Chicago Downtown/Northside
- Maryland: Baltimore (familiar with CBT)
- Massachusetts: Boston Area
- Massachusetts: Cambridge (intelligent, takes Tufts insurance)
- Georgia: Atlanta
- Minnesota: Minneapolis -- Western Suburbs
- Minnesota: Twin Cities Area
- New York: Astoria
- New York: Brooklyn or Lower Manhattan
- New York: Manhattan I, Manhattan II, Manhattan III, Upper East Side, Manhattan IV, Gay issues, Manhattan V, Manhattan VI (transgender), Manhattan VII (CBT) Manhattan VIII (problematic drinking) Manhattan IX (career issues)
- New York: Nassau County (OP is minor being abused)
- North Carolina: Asheville
- North Carolina: Chapel Hill
- North Carolina: Durham
- North Dakota: Fargo / Moorehead
- Oregon: Portland Area I ("queer-friendly."), Oregon: Portland Area II, Oregon: Northeast Portland Area III, (grief) Oregon: Portland Area IV (abuse), Portland Area V (marriage counseling)
- Pennsylvania: Philadelphia Area I (sliding scale), Pennsylvania: Philadelphia Area II, Pennsylvania: Philadelphia Area III, Pennsylvania: Philadelphia Area IV (CBT)
- Pennsylvania: Pittsburgh (CBT)
- Texas: Austin
- Texas: Beaumont Area
- Texas: Dallas Area
- Texas: Houston (couples counseling)
- Virginia: Alexandria (couples counseling)
- Virginia: Richmond I (anxiety and panic specialties), Virginia: Richmond II (PTSD and depression)
- Texas: Waco Area (for polyamorous triad)
- Washington: Seattle Area I, Washington: Seattle Area II (sexual issues), Washington: Seattle Area III, Washington: Seattle Area IV
- Washington, DC I. Washington, DC II (Metro-accessible, grief/trauma)
- Wisconsin: Milwaukee/Madison (gender therapist)
- British Columbia: Vancouver I, British Columbia: Vancouver II, Vancouver III
- Ontario: Toronto I, Ontario: Toronto II
- Beijing (English-speaking)
Low-cost / No-cost Sources of Medication and Health Care
- Needymeds low- or no-cost sources of medication/health care in the US. Clinics which are free or low cost with a sliding scale.
- The Novartis Patient Assistant Program Finder help w/ medicines at reduced or no cost.
Online Support, Suggested in AskMe
These resources are not suggested as a replacement for real-life therapy, but may be helpful for support, self-discovery and advice:
- Online-only CBT (ish) Courses for Bad Esteem, Intrustive Thoughts
- crazyboards.org "no-religious, pro-med, pro-therapy, and the main rule is that you cannot be a bigger asshole than the mods."
- Crazy Meds "Also non religious but more med oriented."
- MD Junction Support Groups
- Psych Central Forums Registration required, moderated by mental health professionals.
- MentalEarth Peer-operated support forums for people affected by mental illness and mental disorders. You must be a legal adult to use the site.
AskMe Threads About Long-Term Coping Strategies
- Help Me Untrigger Myself
- What are some of the best self-help books you read after leaving an abusive relationship?
AskMe Threads About Short-Term Coping Strategies
- Looking for anxiety self-help strategies before pursuing therapy/meds
- How to manage my anxiety until I can get to see a therapist?
General advice about Depression
Depression creates cognitive distortions that can make getting help seem difficult or impossible. People who do a lot of thinking can often think themselves into a dangerous corner. This section may help you act, spurred on by this MeTa thread.
LobsterMitten offers this broad summary of AskMe depression advice
- Seek therapy or other one-on-one counseling for help in breaking thought patterns that keep you depressed. Make and keep therapy appointments. If you don't click with the first therapist, don't give up - try another therapist.
- Maybe seek meds; different ones work for different people
- Exercise; this doesn't have to be as hard as you might think
- Be around people (a job, housemates, a coffee shop). Online doesn't count for this
- Shower, dress and get out of the house every day for at least a little while.
- Eat a sensible amount of healthy food.
- Sleep a reasonable amount. If you are sleeping more than 10 hrs a day, make routines with help from others that will help you break out of that pattern
- Don't make up excuses for why you can't do any of 1-7. Making up excuses to stay depressed is a big part of depression.
- If these aren't helping, try again, let someone know.
AskMe Threads For Those Who Are Depressed
- When you are very depressed, it can help to just take things step by step. Here is a step by step guide to taking a shower and to doing just the essentials every day.
- Here is the most popular Ask Metafilter question about depression: What is the single best thing you have done to help control your depression?
- How exactly does one get help for depression?
- Shiny Happy People Speak Out: "Sometimes it feels like everyone on MeFi is depressed, including me. I'd like to hear from the happy ones. What's your secret?"
- When you were in the midst of deep depression, painful painful fear...were there words, stories that helped, even for just a moment? (A comment also speaks about "Imposter Syndrome," where sufferers are convinced that they do not deserve the success they have achieved and are actually frauds.)
- Give me your best Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) hacks!
- How can I save each day from failure? "I'm depressed. What can I do to keep one small negative experience from spiraling into a cascade of negative thoughts about myself?"
- How do you deal with intractable depression
- Does therapy actually work for depression?
- Please help me manage my obsessive thoughts
- How do I make it through the next five days without falling apart? Completely overwhelmed with depression, midterms, medication, and a funeral. (Best Answers from the thread: 1, 2)
- Will Work for Happiness
- How do you break out of a depressed/unmotivated/lonely funk? (While in college.)
- Have you found help from depression that did not include medication or talk therapy? If so, please share.
- Therapy for the Uninsured and Rural
AskMe Threads for Those Who Would Like To Help Someone Suffering From Depression
- What can I do to help my severely depressed and overworked boyfriend?
- My husband is depressed and wants to kill himself. He refuses counseling. How can I stop him? How can I help a man who refuses help?
- How should I respond to my suicidal sibling's email?
- Help me understand how depression can affect or end a relationship.
- Please help me treat a depressed boyfriend the best that I can.
- I need help on how to deal with (i.e., break up with) my girlfriend with mental health issues.
- My girlfriend's OCD and anxiety causes her to get stuck in loops of obsessive thought that really mess with our relationship. How can I deal with this better, and can therapy help her?
- My sister has an alcohol and/or prescription and/or depression problem. What can I do to help her and in what order?
- I'm getting therapy. He refuses. Now what?
- Help me help my anxious, bipolar, stressed-out friend.
- Best and worst things to say to people in crisis?
AskMe Threads about Talking To Loved Ones About Your Depression
- My husband thinks my depression is a choice, how do I talk to him?
- How do you keep your relationship happy and good when you feel like crap?
- I'm depressed and need my friends. How do I let them know?
- How to tell boyfriend of my depression?
- I'm getting therapy. He refuses. Now what?
Books, Articles &c.
Books that members have found helpful and have recommended to others in AskMe
- Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Excerpt available at Google Books. (repeatedly highly recommended by Metafilter members.)
- How I Stayed Alive When My Brain Was Trying to Kill Me: One Person's Guide to Suicide Prevention offers strategies for recognizing, targeting, and overcoming suicidal thoughts.
- An Unquiet Mind by Kay Redfield Jamison, Professor of Psychiatry at Johns Hopkins.
- (Regardless of What You Were Taught to Believe) There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate and The Depression Book: Depression as an Opportunity for Spiritual Growth by American Zen teacher Cheri Huber. Her website contains an archive of her writings.
- How To Lift Depression ...Fast
- Art Kleiner's How Not To Commit Suicide, is one of the most recommended articles in AskMefi threads about suicide and depression.
- At Kuro5hin.org, Demystifying Depression - Part I and Part II "Defining depression, recognizing its warning signs and how to initiate the recovery process."
- "We all tend to think in extremes...and when traumatic events happen we think that way even more. Here are some common cognitive distortions. Take a look and see if any of them are getting in your way": (An excerpt from David D. Burns' work The Feeling Good Handbook)
- Suicide, the Forever Decision is a book by Paul Quinnett that is available to view for free online, or as a downloadable zip file. A French translation pdf is also available.
- MoodGym / MeFi Post (often recommended)
- If you are thinking about suicide... read this first
Postpartum Depression Resources
USA and Canada
- The Secret Sadness of Pregnancy with Depression
- PPD - includes links to a variety of support resources
- How to pick a therapist to help my anxiety (before pregnancy/parenting)
- help me understand postpartum hormones
- Postpartum Depression vs. Sleep Deprivation
- Apps for Prenatal and Postpartum Care
- Avoiding postpartum mental illness?
- How to handle my healthy pregnancy and friends' pregnancy struggles?
- I'm new to depression. Please help.
- End in sight for PPD?
- How do I support a friend with PPD?
- Was having a baby a mistake?
- How do we make sure our kids have fully-functioning parents?
AskMe Threads about having a problem with drinking
- How can I tell if I'm an alcoholic?
- Does alcohol abuse equate to alcohol dependence?
- Finding the right AA meeting for a beginner
- Can I go to AA meetings even though I'm still drinking?
- How to make it physically easier to stop drinking?
- Finally admitted to myself that I'm an alcoholic. Recovery strategies without AA?
- Getting through the early days of sobriety
AskMe Threads about dealing with someone else's drinking
- What are your experiences with Al-Anon?
- Alcohol-Related Marriage Problems - Advice?
- My boyfriend thinks he's an alcoholic - Should he go to AA?
- Should I feel bad about estranging myself from my alcoholic mother?
- Re-habbing myself while my boyfriend is in rehab
- How to set boundaries with an alcoholic husband
- Help me help him be sober
- Can you help an alcoholic friend?
- My sister is falling off the wagon - what now?
- Is my mom an alcoholic? What do I do?
Resources Suggested in AskMe Threads
For people having a problem with drinking:
- Alcoholics Anonymous
- AA Meeting Finder
- Moderation Management
- Rational Recovery
- Smart Recovery
- Recovering Couples Anonymous
- National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (USA)
- Patient UK on Alcoholism and Problem Drinking (UK)
For family and friends:
- Al-Anon - organization specifically for families and friends of problem drinkers
- Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA) World Service Organization
Books, Articles &c.
- The "Big Book" of Alcoholics Anonymous, online edition
- Alcohol Withdrawal symptoms
- The Progressive Disease of Alcoholism - graphic flowchart
- Drinking: A Love Story, by Caroline Knapp
- Sober Recovery Community online forum
- Addiction, Lies, and Relationships
- National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence - advocacy and education organization
- A Skeptic's Guide to the 12 Steps
- A Place Called Self: Women, Sobriety, and Radical Transformation