Crisis: Where to go for help
Lists of Suicide Hotlines, Local and National Resources
- Suicide.org: USA, by State
- Suicide.org: Countries, Non-USA
- National Alliance on Mental Illness: USA, by State
- National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 800-273-TALK (8255)
- Veterans, press "1"
- En español, oprima el "2")
- Hopeline: 800-SUICIDE (784-2433) / 800-442-4673 / 800-442-HOPE (4673)
- 877-838-2838 Veterans Peer Support line
- 800-784-2432 Spanish-Speaking suicide hotline
- 877-968-8454 Teen-to-Teen peer counseling hotline
- 800-472-3457 Grad Student hotline
- 800-773-6667 Post-partum depression hotline
- 800-799-4TTY (4889) TTY
- Suicide Hotlines: 800-784-2433
- CrisisLink: 703-527-4077
- National Alliance on Mental Illness (For help finding local resources)
- Depression and Suicide Online Chat Support: New Hope Online, Real Mental Health and CONTACT USA crisis chat
- Boys Town National Hotline: 800-448-3000 (they also have live chat and email support)
USA - GLBT
- The Trevor Project: 24/7 crisis & suicide prevention helpline for GLBTQ youth. 1-866-488-7386
- GLBT National Hotline: telephone and email peer-counseling in the US. 1-888-843-4564
USA - Military
- Military Pathways: Military & Veterans Health Resources (including hotlines)
- Military OneSource: Military helpline (Stateside 1-800-342-9647, Overseas 484-530-5908 (they accept collect calls))
- Defense Center of Excellence for Psychological Health and Traumatic Brain Injury (DCoE) Outreach Center: Mental health staff will chat live 24/7, or you can call them at 1-866-966-1020.
- 1300 13 11 14 Web: http://www.lifeline.org.au
- Online Chat Support: Teen Counseling
- Beyond Blue - The National Depression Initiative 1300 22 4636
- 02 649 95 55 (24/7)
- Web: http://www.zelfmoordpreventie.be/index.php
- 01 45 39 40 00 Web: http://suicide.ecoute.free.fr/
- 0800 - 111 0 111 (ev.) (protestant)
- 0800 - 111 0 222 (rk.) (roman catholic)
- 0800 - 111 0 333 (Kinder / Jugendliche) (for kids/teens)
- Web: http://www.telefonseelsorge.de
- Tokyo English LifeLine
- 03 5774 0992 (Free, anonymous telephone counseling. 9am - 11pm daily)
- 03 3498 0231 (Face to Face)
- Lifeline Malaysia
- 603 - 92850039 (Counseling Services)
- 0900-1450 (workdays, 0900-1800 local (CET))
- Web: http://www.korrelatie.nl
- Lifeline New Zealand:
- Lifeline Auckland: (9) 5222-999
- Outside Auckland: 0800 111-777
- Online: http://www.lifeline.org.nz
- Kirkens SOS: 815 33 300
- Mental Helse: 116 123
- Røde Kors-telefonen for barn og unge (Red Cross Helpline for youth): 800 333 21
Republic of Ireland
- Samaritans: 1850 60 90 90 (Deaf or Hard-of-Hearing Minicom: 08457 90 91 92)
- Samaritans: 08457 90 90 90 (Deaf or Hard-of-Hearing Minicom: 08457 90 91 92)
- If you are a child, Childline: 0800 1111
- Samaritans offer 24/7 support to anyone in crisis through email.
- Befrienders Worldwide: international non-profit with 31,000 volunteers in over 40 countries.
Additional Hotlines: Domestic Violence
- National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 (Helpful resources: Am I Being Abused? and Can I Help a Friend or Family Member Who Is Being Abused)
Online Therapist Finders
- Psychology Today (USA & Canada Only)
- HelpPro's National Social Worker Finder (USA only) (They have an extensive directory that can be sorted by location, age group, cost, approach, etc.)
- Polyamory-friendly Professionals (International, including USA)
- Social Work Therapy Finder (USA, Massachusetts Only)
- Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA): Mental Health Services Locator USA Only
- Gaylesta: Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender Psychotherapist Association of the Greater San Francisco Bay Area, for GLBT friendly therapists (USA, California: San Francisco Bay Area)
- NCSF: Database of Kink-Aware Professionals (USA)
- The Secular Therapist Project (USA) (Anonymous registry of therapists who have agreed to keep "their religious, spiritual or supernatural beliefs from informing their therapeutic approach.")
AskMe Threads About Finding A Therapist
- What's the best way to find a good therapist (or doctor)
- Get a Therapist: How?
- How do I even start to locate the therapist that I think would be right for me among so many options?
- I have a lot of questions about therapy
- Finding a therapist: I'm sure I can find one. But how do I know whether the therapist I choose is any good?
- Nuts and bolts of effective psychological therapy from a patient's point of view.
- How can I see a therapist on my parents' insurance without my parents finding out?
- Need help in choosing a psychologist
- Finding the Right Therapist
- What's a good way to find a qualified therapist, especially to look for help with depression?
- Advice from The Straightener, on How to Find a Therapist
- Advice from Omiewise: "Patients who want to get the most out of therapy should...."
Specific Therapist Recommendations
- Arizona: Tucson (Marriage/Couples Counselor / Therapist)
- California: Bay Area I, California: Bay Area II, California: Bay Area III (mindfulness for children)
- California: Berkeley/Albany/El Cerrito/Richmond
- California: Los Angeles I, California: Los Angeles II (sliding scale), California: Los Angeles III, California: Los Angeles IV (anxiety disorders) California: Los Angeles V
- California: Stanford / Palo Alto-Menlo Park Area
- California: San Francisco (evening/weekend hours)
- California: San Francisco II (who also takes Kaiser insurance)
- California: San Francisco III (for men who were sexually abused as children)
- California: Sacramento (Japanese-speaking)
- Colorado: Denver Area
- Illinois: Chicago Area (free/sliding scale), Illinois: Chicago Metro Area (CBT), Illinois: Chicago Downtown/Northside
- Maryland: Baltimore (familiar with CBT)
- Massachusetts: Boston Area
- Massachusetts: Cambridge (intelligent, takes Tufts insurance)
- Georgia: Atlanta
- Minnesota: Minneapolis -- Western Suburbs
- Minnesota: Twin Cities Area
- New York: Astoria
- New York: Brooklyn or Lower Manhattan
- New York: Manhattan I, Manhattan II, Manhattan III, Upper East Side, Manhattan IV, Gay issues, Manhattan V, Manhattan VI (transgender), Manhattan VII (CBT) Manhattan VIII (problematic drinking) Manhattan IX (career issues)
- New York: Nassau County (OP is minor being abused)
- North Carolina: Asheville
- North Carolina: Chapel Hill
- North Carolina: Durham
- North Dakota: Fargo / Moorehead
- Oregon: Portland Area I ("queer-friendly."), Oregon: Portland Area II, Oregon: Northeast Portland Area III, (grief) Oregon: Portland Area IV (abuse), Portland Area V (marriage counseling)
- Pennsylvania: Philadelphia Area I (sliding scale), Pennsylvania: Philadelphia Area II, Pennsylvania: Philadelphia Area III, Pennsylvania: Philadelphia Area IV (CBT)
- Pennsylvania: Pittsburgh (CBT)
- Texas: Austin
- Texas: Beaumont Area
- Texas: Dallas Area
- Texas: Houston (couples counseling)
- Virginia: Alexandria (couples counseling)
- Virginia: Richmond I (anxiety and panic specialties), Virginia: Richmond II (PTSD and depression)
- Texas: Waco Area (for polyamorous triad)
- Washington: Seattle Area I, Washington: Seattle Area II (sexual issues), Washington: Seattle Area III, Washington: Seattle Area IV
- Washington, DC I. Washington, DC II (Metro-accessible, grief/trauma)
- Wisconsin: Milwaukee/Madison (gender therapist)
- British Columbia: Vancouver I, British Columbia: Vancouver II, Vancouver III
- Ontario: Toronto I, Ontario: Toronto II
- Beijing (English-speaking)
Low-cost / No-cost Sources of Medication and Health Care
- Needymeds low- or no-cost sources of medication/health care in the US. Clinics which are free or low cost with a sliding scale.
- The Novartis Patient Assistant Program Finder help w/ medicines at reduced or no cost.
Online Support, Suggested in AskMe
These resources are not suggested as a replacement for real-life therapy, but may be helpful for support, self-discovery and advice:
- crazyboards.org "no-religious, pro-med, pro-therapy, and the main rule is that you cannot be a bigger asshole than the mods."
- Crazy Meds "Also non religious but more med oriented."
- MD Junction Support Groups
- Psych Central Forums Registration required, moderated by mental health professionals.
- MentalEarth Peer-operated support forums for people affected by mental illness and mental disorders. You must be a legal adult to use the site.
AskMe Threads About Long-Term Coping Strategies
- Help Me Untrigger Myself
- What are some of the best self-help books you read after leaving an abusive relationship?
General advice about Depression
Depression creates cognitive distortions that can make getting help seem difficult or impossible. People who do a lot of thinking can often think themselves into a dangerous corner. This section may help you act, spurred on by this MeTa thread.
LobsterMitten offers this broad summary of AskMe depression advice
- Seek therapy or other one-on-one counseling for help in breaking thought patterns that keep you depressed. Make and keep therapy appointments. If you don't click with the first therapist, don't give up - try another therapist.
- Maybe seek meds; different ones work for different people
- Exercise; this doesn't have to be as hard as you might think
- Be around people (a job, housemates, a coffee shop). Online doesn't count for this
- Shower, dress and get out of the house every day for at least a little while.
- Eat a sensible amount of healthy food.
- Sleep a reasonable amount. If you are sleeping more than 10 hrs a day, make routines with help from others that will help you break out of that pattern
- Don't make up excuses for why you can't do any of 1-7. Making up excuses to stay depressed is a big part of depression.
- If these aren't helping, try again, let someone know.
AskMe Threads For Those Who Are Depressed
- When you are very depressed, it can help to just take things step by step. Here is a step by step guide to taking a shower and to doing just the essentials every day.
- Here is the most popular Ask Metafilter question about depression: What is the single best thing you have done to help control your depression?
- Shiny Happy People Speak Out: "Sometimes it feels like everyone on MeFi is depressed, including me. I'd like to hear from the happy ones. What's your secret?"
- When you were in the midst of deep depression, painful painful fear...were there words, stories that helped, even for just a moment? (A comment also speaks about "Imposter Syndrome," where sufferers are convinced that they do not deserve the success they have achieved and are actually frauds.)
- Give me your best Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) hacks!
- How can I save each day from failure? "I'm depressed. What can I do to keep one small negative experience from spiraling into a cascade of negative thoughts about myself?"
- How do you deal with intractable depression
- Does therapy actually work for depression?
- Please help me manage my obsessive thoughts
- How do I make it through the next five days without falling apart? Completely overwhelmed with depression, midterms, medication, and a funeral. (Best Answers from the thread: 1, 2)
- Will Work for Happiness
- How do you break out of a depressed/unmotivated/lonely funk? (While in college.)
- Have you found help from depression that did not include medication or talk therapy? If so, please share.
- Therapy for the Uninsured and Rural
AskMe Threads for Those Who Would Like To Help Someone Suffering From Depression
- What can I do to help my severely depressed and overworked boyfriend?
- My husband is depressed and wants to kill himself. He refuses counseling. How can I stop him? How can I help a man who refuses help?
- How should I respond to my suicidal sibling's email?
- Help me understand how depression can affect or end a relationship.
- Please help me treat a depressed boyfriend the best that I can.
- I need help on how to deal with (i.e., break up with) my girlfriend with mental health issues.
- My girlfriend's OCD and anxiety causes her to get stuck in loops of obsessive thought that really mess with our relationship. How can I deal with this better, and can therapy help her?
- My sister has an alcohol and/or prescription and/or depression problem. What can I do to help her and in what order?
- I'm getting therapy. He refuses. Now what?
- Help me help my anxious, bipolar, stressed-out friend.
AskMe Threads about Talking To Loved Ones About Your Depression
- My husband thinks my depression is a choice, how do I talk to him?
- How do you keep your relationship happy and good when you feel like crap?
- I'm depressed and need my friends. How do I let them know?
- How to tell boyfriend of my depression?
- I'm getting therapy. He refuses. Now what?
Books, Articles &c.
Books that members have found helpful and have recommended to others in AskMe
- Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Excerpt available at Google Books. (repeatedly highly recommended by Metafilter members.)
- How I Stayed Alive When My Brain Was Trying to Kill Me: One Person's Guide to Suicide Prevention offers strategies for recognizing, targeting, and overcoming suicidal thoughts.
- An Unquiet Mind by Kay Redfield Jamison, Professor of Psychiatry at Johns Hopkins.
- (Regardless of What You Were Taught to Believe) There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate and The Depression Book: Depression as an Opportunity for Spiritual Growth by American Zen teacher Cheri Huber. Her website contains an archive of her writings.
- How To Lift Depression ...Fast
- Art Kleiner's How Not To Commit Suicide, is one of the most recommended articles in AskMefi threads about suicide and depression.
- At Kuro5hin.org, Demystifying Depression - Part I and Part II "Defining depression, recognizing its warning signs and how to initiate the recovery process."
- "We all tend to think in extremes...and when traumatic events happen we think that way even more. Here are some common cognitive distortions. Take a look and see if any of them are getting in your way": (An excerpt from David D. Burns' work The Feeling Good Handbook)
- Suicide, the Forever Decision is a book by Paul Quinnett that is available to view for free online, or as a downloadable zip file. A French translation pdf is also available.
- MoodGym / MeFi Post (often recommended)
- If you are thinking about suicide... read this first
AskMe Threads about having a problem with drinking
- How can I tell if I'm an alcoholic?
- Does alcohol abuse equate to alcohol dependence?
- Finding the right AA meeting for a beginner
- Can I go to AA meetings even though I'm still drinking?
- How to make it physically easier to stop drinking?
- Finally admitted to myself that I'm an alcoholic. Recovery strategies without AA?
- Getting through the early days of sobriety
AskMe Threads about dealing with someone else's drinking
- What are your experiences with Al-Anon?
- Alcohol-Related Marriage Problems - Advice?
- My boyfriend thinks he's an alcoholic - Should he go to AA?
- Should I feel bad about estranging myself from my alcoholic mother?
- Re-habbing myself while my boyfriend is in rehab
- How to set boundaries with an alcoholic husband
- Help me help him be sober
- Can you help an alcoholic friend?
- My sister is falling off the wagon - what now?
- Is my mom an alcoholic? What do I do?
Resources Suggested in AskMe Threads
For people having a problem with drinking:
- Alcoholics Anonymous
- AA Meeting Finder
- Moderation Management
- Rational Recovery
- Smart Recovery
- Recovering Couples Anonymous
- National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (USA)
- Patient UK on Alcoholism and Problem Drinking (UK)
For family and friends:
- Al-Anon - organization specifically for families and friends of problem drinkers
- Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA) World Service Organization
Books, Articles &c.
- The "Big Book" of Alcoholics Anonymous, online edition
- Alcohol Withdrawal symptoms
- The Progressive Disease of Alcoholism - graphic flowchart
- Drinking: A Love Story, by Caroline Knapp
- Sober Recovery Community online forum
- Addiction, Lies, and Relationships
- National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence - advocacy and education organization
- A Skeptic's Guide to the 12 Steps
- A Place Called Self: Women, Sobriety, and Radical Transformation
Rape and Sexual Assault Resources
- RAINN: The Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network
- (800) 656-HOPE (4673)
- Online Hotline: http://apps.rainn.org/ohl-bridge/
- Rape and Sexual Abuse Support Centre
- Helpline: 0808 802 9999. Open every day, 12:00 to 14:30 and 19:00 to 21:30
- Counselling: 0209 683 3311. Open Mon-Fri 9am - 7pm.
- Rape And Abuse Line
- Answered by women 0808 8000 123
- Answered by men 0808 8000 122
If you know someone who has been a victim of rape or sexual violence and would like to help
AskMe Threads Regarding Rape
- What can I expect if I report a rape to the police? (Asker is in United States.)
- Rape support services/books/organizations for men whose significant other has been raped?
- What can I do to cope with rape? (I was raped in a foreign country. Going home is not an option. What can I do to cope?)
- If my rapist comes after me again, is there any legal weapon (other than a gun) that will stop him?